February 10, 2017

The Cake Is Not A Lie

One of my friends feels very trapped in her situation.

Stuck with no choices.

It’s hard to be witness to this and see her pain.

I’ve been there. I think we all have at times. In a place where it feels like there are no options and there’s no way out.

You end up circling around and around the same paths with no sign of an exit.

But the thing is, there’s always an out. It may not always be obvious but there is one.

I resigned myself to living the life I had created before I had my fuck it moment. In a job that I both loved and resented. In a household that did none of the things I wanted to do. With friends, who are not part of my life anymore, who would rather grumble than act.

It was pretty fucking depressing.

The thing is jobs can be changed. Careers can be changed.

Living arrangements can be changed.

Friends can be unfriended.

Sometimes the walls we see around us are in our own minds.

And sometimes shaking things up makes all the difference.

So what would I tell my friend?

You’re unhappy because you’re not living your life’s purpose and you know it. But it’s less frightening to live with the devil you know than throw everything upside down and watch where things fall.

Imagine that you’re 80. Or imagine that you’ve just received news that you’re going to die soon. Either way, you’re at the end of your life.

How do you feel about the life you lived?

Do you have regrets?

Do you wish you had lived differently?

And be honest with yourself in these answers. Think about them. And if you’re unhappy or not living your purpose, maybe it’s time to make some changes. Start small and do it in steps.

I started by painting a lot more. Working a bit less.

A small first step that put me on a new path which has made my life almost completely different two years later.

So, my friend, what would you change? A small step. A tiny first bite of a really amazing cake.

What change would improve your life right now?

Because, I promise you, the cake is not a lie. It’s unexpected flavour maybe, and more incredible than you can imagine, but it’s definitely not a lie.