One of the most common things I hear from people is how alone they are. That all they see is negativity, fear and hate in the world.
That they don’t belong.
Do you feel that way? Right now, are you feeling isolated and maybe unseen?
But you are so loved.
When I start feeling like this, and it happens especially when I work in isolation, I look for ways to add love to someone else’s day.
Sounds weird, right? But I figure if I need it, they might too, and the act of giving makes me feel so much better.
A kindness to the person I’m ordering food from, even at the drive thru. A genuine smile. A wish of a good day. Taking that moment to see them as a person, and not an automaton.
A pause to let someone else go first before me in line. Or letting someone cross in front of me when I’m driving through the mall.
Holding a door open for a mother with her hands full, or an older person who may be struggling.
Small, small acts of love that in that moment, connect me to humanity.
And if you’re on the receiving end of those acts of love, do you feel it?
I used to think that you had to know a person individually to love them. That feeling love for a stranger was disingenuous. Impossible, even. But I was wrong.
I have this idea that we are all more alike than different. That yes, we have different experiences moving through the world based on our country, race, socio-economic status, gender and sexuality for sure. Our experiences can only be different.
Cheesies under different names are sold around the world. Cheetos, Whatsits, cheese puffs, cheezies… whatever you call them, you can buy variations of the same thing in most countries.
Or, if you prefer, Coke (the drink not the drug) can be found around the world.
Because there are strong common threads that tie us together. Biological threads, maybe, but they are there and we are made up from our biology.
So taking that a step farther, it’s possible to love a stranger, even for a moment, because only the surface is unknown. Inside, we are cheesie loving, connection craving humans.
And going even a step farther, when you are feeling unloved and alone, look for those moments of love done by people like me. They are there to see if you open your heart to them. They are there to create if you recognize that the love you put out in the world comes back to you in so many surprising, big and little ways.
Right now, on Twitter, one of my followers has spent time finding the moments I painted from Supernatural. Sharing the photos with me online.
@PaulaMould kind of had to pic.twitter.com/0mcgK28HfC
— spnmom (@spnmom3) August 14, 2018
Guess how loved I’ve felt since she started?
So loved. So cherished. Like I matter and belong.
Look around you and find the love. It’s there, I promise, and it starts right here with you reading this. You are so loved by me in this moment.
Now go make someone else’s day a bit brighter.